Posted on July 19th, 2008 by admin

Whether he’s impotent or a stud, mad for you or cool for you, whether your marriage is strong or weak, some married women do have sex with people other than their husbands. We don’t have copious statistics about infidelity. The Hite Report on Male Sexuality reported that 72 percent of the men who had been married more than two years engaged in extramarital affairs.

On Cosmopolitan’s Sex Survey, responded to by 105,000 women, 54 percent said they had had an affair during marriage. In the European upper class, affairs are virtually de rigueur. . . . Marry someone suitable with whom you have lovely, suitable children and spend the rest of your life with him, but also have a mistress or lover. Many American women’s magazines, which supposedly reflect American mores, don’t even acknowledge female adultery, but if we all know plenty of people who don’t cheat, we also know plenty who do.

Hardly anything (especially husbands) always turns out the way you planned it. Having a man cheat on you may be one of those ratty, rotten things programmed for your particular existence, like having a man die in your arms is programmed for somebody else. Infidelity is down the list somewhere on the causes for divorce incompatibility is much higher. Being constituted as I am to try to do something about problems the mouseburger way I could probably cope with the first defection, strengthen my ties to him, try to change whatever he said he didn’t like about me, try, finally, to shut up about his infidelity and see what the future held. There isn’t really anything else to do, is there? I’d be lucky to have my job. A job has always sustained me in times of heartbreak and I assume would now. I would survive but I doubt I could take more than one or two infidelities without leaving him. Could you?

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